As a Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist, I have worked with many individuals who have experienced infidelity in their relationships. It can be a painful experience that leaves you feeling betrayed, hurt, and confused. However, it’s important to remember that you’re not alone. Many people have been through infidelity and have come out on the other side stronger and more resilient. In this blog post, I will share 15 tips on how to get over being cheated on.

1. Allow yourself to feel your emotions: It’s normal to feel a range of emotions after being cheated on, such as anger, sadness, and betrayal. However, it’s important to process these emotions in a healthy way. Seek support from friends and family, consider therapy, and take care of yourself.
2. Practice self-love: Remember that you deserve love and respect, regardless of what has happened in your relationship.
3. Avoid blaming yourself: Remember that being cheated on is not your fault. The responsibility lies with the person who cheated. Don’t blame yourself for their actions.
4. Set clear boundaries with your partner: If you decide to stay with your partner after infidelity, it’s important to set clear boundaries and expectations moving forward.
5. Practice forgiveness: Forgiveness is a process that takes time and effort. However, it can be an important step in moving forward after infidelity.
6. Focus on the present moment: It’s easy to get caught up in the past or worry about the future after infidelity. However, focusing on the present moment can help you stay grounded and centered.
7. Take care of yourself: Self-care is important during any difficult time, but especially after infidelity. Make sure you’re eating well, getting enough sleep, and engaging in activities that bring you joy.
8.  Seek support from friends and family: Lean on your support system during this difficult time.
9. Be honest with yourself: It’s important to be honest with yourself about your feelings and needs after infidelity.
10. Communicate with your partner: Communication is key after infidelity. Be open and honest with your partner about your feelings and needs.
11. Take things slow: Healing from infidelity takes time. Don’t rush the process.
12. Practice self-reflection: Take time to reflect on what you want and need in a relationship moving forward.
13. Don’t make any rash decisions: It’s important to take the time to make thoughtful decisions about your relationship after infidelity.
14. Find healthy outlets for your emotions: Engage in activities that help you process your emotions in a healthy way, such as journaling or exercise.
15. Work with a sexologist or therapist: Healing from infidelity is not a one-size-fits-all process. Work with a sexologist or therapist who can provide guidance tailored to your specific needs and situation.

Here are some reframing statements that can help you shift your perspective and move forward after being cheated on:

1. “I am not defined by my partner’s actions. I am my own person with my own worth and value.”
2. “This experience has taught me what I want and need in a relationship, and I will use that knowledge to create a healthier and happier future for myself.”
3. “I am capable of forgiveness, but that doesn’t mean I have to forget or excuse what happened. Forgiveness is for my own healing, not for the benefit of my partner.”
4. “I am not alone in this experience. Many people have been through infidelity and have come out stronger on the other side.”
5. “I am deserving of love and respect, and I will not settle for anything less in my relationships.”