Bisexuality is a complex and often misunderstood identity. Here are some key points to help you better understand bisexuality and address some of the myths and misconceptions that surround it:Bisexual vs. Bicurious: Bisexuality refers to an attraction to both men and women, while bicurious refers to a person who is curious about same-sex attraction but may not have acted on those feelings yet. Signs that someone is likely bisexual as opposed to just bi-curious include:
- Consistent attraction to both men and women over time
- A desire for relationships with both men and women
- A willingness to openly identify as bisexual
- Having had romantic or sexual experiences with both men and women
- Feeling a deep emotional connection to both men and women
- Being attracted to people regardless of their gender identity or expression
- Feeling comfortable and confident in their bisexual identity, even in the face of societal stigma or discrimination
- Being interested in learning more about bisexuality and connecting with other bisexual people for support and community.
Myths and Misconceptions: There are many myths and misconceptions about bisexuality, including:
Myth 1: Bisexual people are just going through a phase
One of the most common myths about bisexuality is that it’s just a phase that people go through before they “choose” to be either straight or gay. This myth is harmful because it invalidates the experiences of bisexual people and suggests that their sexuality is not real or valid.
In reality, bisexuality is a valid sexual orientation that exists on a spectrum. Bisexual people are attracted to more than one gender, and their attraction can shift over time. However, this does not mean that bisexuality is a temporary or “experimental” phase.
Myth 2: Bisexual people are confused or indecisive
Another harmful myth about bisexuality is that bisexual people are confused or indecisive about their sexuality. This myth suggests that bisexuality is not a legitimate sexual orientation, and that bisexual people should “pick a side” and stick with it.
In reality, bisexuality is a valid and legitimate sexual orientation that exists on a spectrum. Bisexual people are not confused or indecisive – they simply experience attraction to more than one gender.
Myth 3: Bisexual people are more likely to cheat on their partners
A common myth about bisexuality is that bisexual people are more likely to cheat on their partners because they are attracted to more than one gender. This myth is harmful because it suggests that bisexual people are untrustworthy or promiscuous.
In reality, there is no evidence to suggest that bisexual people are more likely to cheat on their partners than anyone else. Bisexual people can be just as committed and faithful in their relationships as anyone else.
Myth 4: Bisexual people are equally attracted to men and women
Another common myth about bisexuality is that bisexual people are equally attracted to men and women. This myth suggests that bisexuality is a binary orientation, and that bisexual people are attracted to only two genders.
In reality, bisexuality exists on a spectrum, and bisexual people can be attracted to people of any gender. Bisexual people may experience attraction to one gender more than another, or they may experience attraction to multiple genders in different ways.
It’s important to challenge these myths and misconceptions about bisexuality in order to create a more inclusive and accepting society for all. By educating ourselves and others about the reality of bisexuality, we can work towards a world where all sexual orientations are celebrated and accepted.
These myths are harmful and untrue. Bisexuality is a valid and legitimate sexual orientation, and bisexual people deserve respect and understanding.
What is Bi-Erasure?
Bi-Erasure: Bi-erasure refers to the erasure or denial of bisexuality as a legitimate identity. This can take many forms, including:
Assuming that someone is either gay or straight based on their current relationship or behavior
Dismissing bisexuality as a “fad” or “trend”
Ignoring or erasing bisexual representation in media and culture
what are the Harms of Bi-Erasure?
Bi-erasure can be especially harmful to bisexual people, who may feel invisible or invalidated in their identities.
- Invisibility: Bi-erasure can make bisexual people feel invisible or ignored. When their experiences and identities are not acknowledged or recognized, they may feel like they don’t belong or that their feelings are not valid.
- Isolation: When bisexual people are erased, they may feel isolated and alone. They may struggle to find community or support, which can lead to feelings of loneliness and depression.
- Invalidated identity: Bi-erasure can make bisexual people feel like their identity is not real or valid. This can lead to self-doubt and confusion about their sexuality, which can be damaging to their mental health.
- Discrimination: Bi-erasure can also contribute to discrimination against bisexual people. When their identities are not recognized or respected, they may face prejudice and discrimination from others.
- Health disparities: Bisexual people already face health disparities, including higher rates of mental health issues, substance abuse, and suicide. Bi-erasure can exacerbate these disparities by making it harder for bisexual people to access healthcare and support services.
If you are struggling with your sexuality or experiencing bi-erasure, know that you are not alone. A Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist like myself can provide support, guidance, and resources to help you navigate your identity and find acceptance within yourself and your community.
Remember, bisexuality is a valid and legitimate identity, and you deserve to be seen and heard. Don’t be afraid to reach out for help if you need it – a sexologist can help you find the support and resources you need to live your best life.
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